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How To Make Career Decisions Without Going Around In Circles

Are you looking for help with your career?

At various points in our lives we can find ourselves needing help with our careers. This post helps you to understand what the role of a career coach is and whether it’s the right option for you.

Do any of the following sound familiar?

  • you’ve reached burnout and need to reassess
  • you feel like something is missing and want to find out what it is
  • you’ve been following a career path, but are wondering whether it’s making the most of your strengths
  • you’re interested in a promotion, but aren’t confident enough to move forward
  • you’ve taken on a new role and are struggling with self belief

The average person changes jobs 12 times in their lifetime

2019 Bureau of Labor Statistics

How can a career coach help?

A career coach can help you to gain clarity on your next steps. Coaches help you by giving you the time and space to think, working through what’s on your mind. As a coach my role is to ask you the incisive questions that help you uncover what your goals are, what might be holding you back and how you can get to where you want to be.

A coach isn’t there to tell you what to do. If you’re looking for advice you might find a mentor helpful. Mentors are typically people who are further along in their career journey than you. They can advise you how they got to where they are and act as a sounding board for challenges that you’re facing.

What if I want help to change career?

We often undervalue our strengths and achievements. If we’re looking to change career it can feel like a very scary leap. A career coach can help you to increase your self-awareness, enabling you to communicate your strengths with confidence. Together you can identify connections between your previous achievements and the role you’d like to pursue. A coach will help you to develop a roadmap, with small steps which can help to reduce the leap.

What is an employment coach?

Employment coaches often work with unemployed people, helping them to develop their employability skills. This can include providing advice on CV writing, interview techniques and job search strategy. I also offer these services. The sessions are a mix of coaching and advice. For example, I will coach you, to help you identify your strengths and achievements, then provide guidance on CV writing good practice to ensure that your CV has the best chance of success.

How can Coach The Difference help?

I’m a qualified Executive Coach with a triple accredited Practitioner Diploma in Executive Coaching. My clients are often professionals in career transition, who have recently secured a new role, or are looking to change roles.

I bring my experience as a senior leader, managing 5 multi-functional departments to my coaching. Within this role I was responsible for the recruitment, onboarding, mentoring and development of a large number of employees. I also work as a career coach for an outplacement charity helping unemployed professionals.

I offer 1-1 coaching, which is tailored to your needs. We work together for 6 – 8 sessions, meeting every 2 – 4 weeks. Coaching sessions are usually provided virtually via zoom, enabling you to fit them into your schedule.

If you would prefer face to face coaching it can be provided in my home office, a coffee shop, or as walking coaching in the Beaconsfield area.

If this sounds interesting please book a free 30 minute discovery call. Don’t worry, there’s no hard sell, it’s just an opportunity for us to find out whether we’re a good match.

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Goal Setting – What Matters Most In Your Life?

  • What would you do if you only had 10 years left to live?
  • How about 5 years?
  • What if you only had 1 year?

This goal setting exercise was given to me several years ago. It really made an impact.

I think it was so significant for me, because 10 years ago, my husband died after only 1 week in hospital. I realised at that point, just how short life can be. Initially I was offended, I thought that it was an insensitive question to ask, given my circumstances. However, it made me reflect on what was important in my life.

We can easily go through life with goals and dreams that we put off for another day, thinking that we’ll have time. Sometimes it’s fear of failure, or even fear of success that holds us back. Sometimes it’s not having a clear plan.

9 out of 10 workers would take a pay cut if it meant having the opportunity to participate in more purposeful work. 

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Shifting the question from ‘What would you like to be doing 10 years from now?’ to ‘What would you do if you only had 10 years to live?’ gives a sense of urgency, clarifying your thoughts.

The exercise motivated me to set clear goals and gave me a focus. I began to plan, research, set myself some deadlines and make things happen.

Using this questioning approach can help you to visualise what your priorities are. Once you’ve visualised your goals you’ll still need to plan clear steps to achieve them, but it’s a helpful tool to spark ideas.

How to set goals using this technique

By asking the time bound questions from the exercise above it can help you to think about;

  • how old you would be at that point
  • what age your children would be (if you have them)
  • how long you’ll have been in your current role
  • wider life goals, beyond work

Which can help you to think about:

  • the outcomes you’d like to have achieved
  • if you’ll have greater flexibility in terms of location, travel, working hours
  • whether you’d like to have moved onto another role
  • your work/life balance

Also reflect on the following:

  • What kind of organisation are you working in? e.g. Large Corporate, Not-for-profit, SME
  • What’s the culture like?
  • Are you working independently, or as part of a team?
  • Are you leading the team?
  • Where are you based? Home, an office, abroad?
  • What are you known for?

What next?

Once you’ve identified your goals:

  • think about how committed you are to them on a scale of 1 to 10, this will help you prioritise them
  • which milestones will get you to your goals?
  • how will you know when you’ve achieved them?
  • what might get in the way?
  • who could help you?
  • what’s the first small step which you need to take?

Without realising it, you’ll have used a SMART goal setting technique, by identifying specific goals, which are measurable, achievable, realistic and time bound.

I’d love to hear how you get on. If you’d like some help, please contact me about my coaching packages.

Following redundancy, one of my coaching clients was struggling to decide which career direction to take next. I asked how they’d like to be remembered when they retired.

They wanted their legacy to be their approach to customers. In that moment they realised that it was their greatest strength, yet it didn’t even factor on their CV. They were passionate and highly knowledgeable about customer service.

They identified organisations that they could target and actions they could take to raise their profile. 4 months later they’d secured a senior role building customer loyalty.

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Vision Boards for when SMART goals aren’t your thing

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Vision Boards, for when SMART goals aren’t your thing

There’s plenty of research which supports the S.M.A.R.T approach to developing goals. However, it’s not for everyone, so I thought I’d share some posts with alternative approaches, starting with vision boards. As a disclaimer, I’m not guaranteeing success with any of the methods I share, they’re just tools which you might like to try.

Achieving goals

There are many elements involved in successfully achieving a goal, for example;

  • Deciding on your goal
  • Thinking creatively
  • Planning how you’ll achieve it
  • Visualising the goal and the steps to reach it
  • Paying attention to/being affected by relevant cues
  • Exercising willpower or self control
  • Helpful habits
  • Monitoring progress and adapting
  • Inhibiting internal distractions (emotions)
  • Inhibiting external distractions
  • Taking action

List from Amy Brann – Neuroscience for coaches

What is a vision board?

A vision board, or action board, is a visual representation of your goals, dreams and intentions.

If you google vision boards you’ll see that there is much debate about the pro’s and con’s! So to give you a balanced view here’s some research for and against them. What there seems to be agreement about is the importance of visualising the steps needed to reach your goals, so make sure you don’t miss this bit out!

What are the benefits of using a vision board?

Sometimes coaching clients feel stuck when talking about goals. When we explore it they’re often being held back by assumptions, beliefs and the voice in their head which is saying ‘I should do x…’ Visualising their desires can help them to think creatively – they start talking about the ‘what if’s…’ Their eyes light up at the possibilities, suddenly they feel motivated to take action.

During my coach training I experimented with a vision board. This was my experience:

  • The act of creating the vision board helped me to clarify my goals and dreams
  • It acted as a visual reminder of what I was aiming for. Research into goal maintenance shows that there could be benefits in keeping a goal in mind externally, rather than relying on working memory.
  • I found it helpful to portray goals beyond my work life e.g. financial, travel, wellbeing, hobbies. It helped me to think about the intrinsic motivation behind my goals, which drove me to achieve them (the ‘why’.)
  • As mentioned above, an important step for me was focusing on elements on the board and thinking about the steps I’d need to take to achieve them (the ‘how’.)

How to create a vision board

  1. Reflect on your goals or dreams.
  2. To help you develop your vision board ideas source images, metaphors, quotes and words which reflect your goals. You might also like to portray how you want to feel.
  3. Add the images to a board, this can be a physical pin board, or a piece of card. Alternatively you might want to create your vision board digitally using Canva, Miro or Mural. Unsplash is a great website for finding images.
  4. Looking at the different elements on your board, reflect on the following:
  • How might it feel if you achieve that goal?
  • Visualise the steps you could take to achieve it, what milestones are there along the way?
  • When might you get to those milestones?
  • Who can help you?
  • What might get in the way?
  • How could you overcome it?
  • On a scale of 1 to 10 how committed are you to the goal?
  • What would move you up the scale by 1 point?
  • What’s one small step you can take tomorrow/this week/this month?

In summary, my personal experience is that vision boards can be a useful tool for unblocking thinking, enabling you to think more creatively. They can be motivating, particularly when combined with reflection on the steps that you need to take to achieve the goals.

Have you used vision boards? What’s your experience been?

Once you start working towards your goals you may face challenges which de-motivate you. You might find this blog post helpful – 5 Resilience Boosting Techniques To Help You Move Forward

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Prevent Employee Burnout With These 10 Questions

Your staff are exhausted. They’re under pressure at work. Deadlines are hurtling towards them. You’ve just been asked if they can take on more responsibility. You’re worried it might tip them over the edge.

You’re not alone. ‘Burnout’ was recognised by the World Health Organisation (WHO) as an ‘occupational phenomenon’, in 2019. The Coronavirus pandemic has drastically changed our work-life balance and working environments.

1 in 5 UK workers felt unable to manage pressure and stress levels at work

YouGov Plc – March 2021

Burnout is a state of physical and emotional exhaustion.

  • Tired or drained most of the time
  • Feeling helpless, trapped and/or defeated
  • Having a cynical/negative outlook
  • Feeling detached/alone in the world
  • Self-doubt
  • Procrastinating and taking longer to get things done
  • Feeling overwhelmed

Burnout doesn’t go away on it’s own and it could cause more harm if you don’t take action.

46% of workers feel more prone to extreme levels of stress compared with a year ago

YouGov Plc – March 2020

How can I manage staff overwhelm as a leader?

Here are some questions which you can ask your direct reports.

  1. What does good wellbeing look like for you?
  2. How do you feel and behave?
  3. What would others notice about you?
  4. How do you maintain good wellbeing?
  5. Which situations cause you stress?
  6. How can I lessen the impact?
  7. What are the signs that you’re experiencing stress?
  8. How can I tell that it’s all got too much?
  9. What will you do, if you start to experience signs of burnout?
  10. What can I do to help you if I notice you’re feeling overwhelmed?

Good wellbeing

Understanding what good wellbeing looks like, before someone reaches burnout, helps you to support them. For example, if exercise is important to them and you notice they’ve dropped their daily walk, you can mention it and see what’s impacting it.

Burnout early warning signs

If you know what causes your employees stress and how they respond to stress, you can prevent burnout, or spot the early warning signs.

We all have different strengths. For example, how you feel about giving a presentation to a large audience, not having accurate data to inform decision making, or networking, will differ to how someone else feels. What causes you joy may cause them high levels of stress.

By having an awareness of your employees stretch areas you can ensure you’re providing the right support – whether that’s by using the strengths of other team members, or helping them to step out of their comfort zone in a supportive manner.

Burnout support

Help employees to think about what they can do if they experience stress. If you have access to an employee wellbeing programme, or details of charities who may be able to support them you can pass these details on.


In summary, if you hope burnout will resolve itself you may be at risk of causing further harm to employees’ wellbeing and productivity. These questions provide a framework for a supportive discussion with your employees. They enable you to address the underlying causes of burnout and put actions in place to prevent it.


You or your employees may find my ‘Circle of Control’ workbook useful in managing feelings of overwhelm.

If you’d like some help in identifying your employees strengths and stretch areas I offer Clarity4D personality profile reports. I also offer 1-1 coaching, team coaching and a range of workshops. Get in touch to find out more.

I’d love you to join my free Facebook group for leaders. It’s a really supportive community and I pop in regularly to share tips and ideas.

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How To Build Trust As A Leader

As a new leader you want to build trust and credibility with your colleagues. You want them to feel that they’ve made the right decision in hiring you for the role. You need them to have faith in your ability to deliver on promises.

Whilst it can take time to build trust in the workplace, there are actions which you can take to help. Inspired by The Trust Equation, developed by Charles Green, I’ve written a series of articles on LinkedIn. Follow the links below to read each article.

4 variables of trust

  • Credibility – If there’s a disconnect between words and actions it affects the level of trust, which in turn impact commitment and engagement. This article gives 3 steps to increase credibility and therefore build trust.
  • Reliability – This article helps ensure that your colleagues know that you value their time, and recognise the impact that your behaviour has on their work. It includes some questions for you to reflect on.
  • Intimacy – Intimacy in this context is about how safe and secure people feel in sharing information with you. To create psychological safety you need trust. This article will help you put actions in place so that your staff feel that their opinions are valued.
  • Self orientation – If you’re self oriented you’re primarily concerned with your own needs. We may all like to think that we have low levels of self orientation. However, it’s worth reflecting on the subtle ways in which self orientation can show up.
The Trust Equation, developed by Charles Green.

I hope that the articles help you to reflect on ways to increase trust as a leader. If you’d like some help building trust in the workplace I’d love to hear from you. I offer a range of coaching packages. Book a free discovery call so we can chat about what you’re looking for.

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Hybrid working – How to get the best from your team as a leader

As the debate about the return to the office vs. a hybrid working approach vs. remote working continues what can you do to prepare yourself as a leader?

Having exploratory conversations with your team will help you to understand their productivity drivers. Discuss which elements of their work require a more collaborative approach. Then you can intentionally design working practices with thought given to outcomes, place, time, energy, wellbeing and opportunities to learn and develop.

The demand for a hybrid working approach

The CIPD’s Embedding new ways of working post-pandemic report shows that some 40% of employers said that they expect more than half their workforce to work regularly from home after the pandemic has ended. Data from the Office of National Statistics, prior to Covid showed only 5% of the workforce worked mainly from home.

A recent Boston Consulting Group (BCG) study of 2,000 UK employees demonstrated employee demand for a hybrid working model. 67% of those working remotely since COVID-19 want to be able to split their time between the physical workplace and home working in the future.

How can leaders balance employee needs and aspirations around how they want to work with business objectives?

The focus needs to be on how to support employee aspirations and needs, whilst delivering the required outcomes. To do this effectively leaders need to understand their staff, what motivates them and how they deliver the outcomes expected of them. This will help to intentionally design successful hybrid working models.

For the majority of leaders, this will be a new way of managing staff. Whilst you could argue that leaders have been managing staff remotely for the past year, the hybrid approach raises different challenges.

There are many instances where remote working hasn’t been successful. Leaders have struggled to engage their teams, or manage performance effectively. Staff have given leaders some lee-way, on the basis that it was new for everyone and people were just surviving. However, the new normal needs a planned approach if it’s going to be successful.

Questions to reflect on as a leader

Outcomes

By focusing on the outcomes that your team need to deliver it switches your attention from traditional ways of working to a focus on productivity. Engage with staff to understand how tasks are best completed. This can inform decisions around place and time, to support your hybrid working model.

  • What outcomes does your team need to deliver?
  • How are those outcomes achieved?

Time, place and energy

Remote working has enabled staff to gain flexibility around their working patterns. In many cases employees have benefitted from the reduction in commuting and time with their family. Staff have been able to work at times that match their individual energy levels.

  • In your hybrid model are staff going to work chronologically, based on a specific schedule?
  • How can you be flexible to individual’s energy levels?
  • What extent will colleagues’ schedules coincide to encourage collaboration?
  • How much autonomy will be given about working hours?

Wellbeing

Your goal is productivity. People are more productive when they have energy and good levels of wellbeing. Working habits can become unhealthy when employees are exhausted or stressed. The pandemic drew attention to the need for wellbeing and it’s important that it’s not lost. There is a risk that boundaries get blurred when employees are working from home. For instance, they may start earlier, work through lunch breaks and struggle to step away from their work in the evening.

Create a transition period before and after work. For example, replace your daily commute with a walk around the block. This will provide your mind with a mental transition, which makes it easier to switch between roles. (Research by Kristen Shockley and Malissa Clark, University of Georgia)
  • How can you encourage and support good staff wellbeing?
  • What role do you play?
  • What might hinder your team?

Performance management

The challenges of home schooling demonstrated just how important it is to work in an environment without distractions, where you’re not interrupted or multi-tasking.

However, when you can’t see your staff it can lead to a feeling of a lack of control over their workload and performance. This can result in micromanagement and resentment.

  • How can you support staff to create an environment where they can focus?
  • What can you do to manage your own assumptions about productivity?
  • How can you create a focus on outcomes in performance management?

Collaboration, connection and teamwork

There are certain tasks which require teamwork, either in coordinating tasks or in sharing ideas to innovate. Inefficiencies and divides are created when teams aren’t aligned. To work effectively as part of a team colleagues need to develop trusting relationships.

People have a need for social connection so that they don’t feel isolated, so you need to think about how you can build opportunities to connect into your hybrid working model. In a CIPD survey in Summer 2020 almost half of all of the people surveyed reported that social connections at work had worsened. 

In 1992 BT adopted large scale work from home trails, resulting in a positive impact on call centre energy, well-being, and productivity. Since then, BT has steadily introduced new technologies to support its remote workforce. Culture and management style is essential.

“We have used our communication platforms to build lots of virtual team check-ins so people don’t feel isolated, and we engineer virtual encounters like ‘virtual coffee’ so people have a chance to chat with people they don’t know so well.” 

BT home workers have been able to succeed in this model. “We’ve really learned that focusing on outcomes rather than being present in the office is crucial,” said Millard. That has meant developing processes for virtual performance management that include regular team check-ins, one-on-one conversations, and monthly reports to management. (Dr Nicola J. Millard, Principal Innovation Partner at BT)
  • How can you enable staff to work collaboratively?
  • How can you support staff in building trust and rapport?

Inclusivity, learning and visibility

There’s a risk that hybrid working creates a ‘them and us’ feeling, between employees in the office and those at home. The office environment creates opportunities for emerging talent to be noticed. Serendipitous moments to get involved in projects, join meetings or job shadow may be missed.

  • How will you ensure that your approach is inclusive?
  • Can you create opportunities for staff to learn from each other?
  • How will you encourage staff to gain credibility, visibility and influence?

In summary, there’s going lots of learning along the way. Be willing to experiment as a leader, listen to your staff. Use this as an opportunity to develop a new, more flexible way of working.

Do you want some help in exploring the questions above, or the leadership behaviours required? Please get in touch. I’d love to help.

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Practical Tips To Improve Your Influencing Skills In The Workplace

Influencing skills are a key leadership behaviour to develop. There are many instances where you need to demonstrate influencing and negotiation skills within the workplace. They’re not just skills for people who lead a team. Developing your influencing skills is a great way to increase your credibility in your workplace.

Influencing skills examples

Here are a few influencing skills examples, but there are many more!

  • Motivating a team
  • Running a project
  • Persuading others to help you
  • Gaining resources
  • Negotiating a pay increase or promotion
  • Getting people to accept change
  • Changing someone’s behaviour
  • Resolving disputes
  • Gaining commitment for an idea

People often associate influence with power. The Collins English Dictionary definition even mentions power. However you don’t need to have authority over others to be able to influence them. In fact telling people what to do from a position of power can often lead to resentment, with people feeling coerced.

If you influence someone, you use your power to make them agree with you or do what you want.

Collins english dictionary

You may have experienced times where you’ve been manipulated into doing something. You’re unlikely to trust the person who takes this approach, or be so willing to support their requests in the future.

Building rapport and trust is key to influencing others. How often have you had what you think is a great idea, then excitedly shared it with someone else, only to be disappointed by their lack of enthusiasm?

When they’ve raised concerns or objections how have you responded? Often we react defensively, yet we’ve shared the idea based on the benefits it will bring us, not taking their perspective into account. Does the conversation switch from one where you wanted to gain their buy-in to you trying to assert why your idea is right?

Power is  capacity to get others to act based on  positional authority that is exercised over others; often leading to resentment 

Influence is the ability to modify how a person develops, behaves, or thinks based on relationships and persuasion; often leading to respect

McIntosh & Luecke (2011)

How do you improve your influencing skills?

The good news is that you can develop your influencing skills.

Identify who you need to influence

Draw a mindmap of the people that you need to influence. Who are your key stakeholders, internally and externally?

How well are you influencing them?

Give yourself a score out of 10 for how well you’re influencing each person on your mindmap.

For those that you’re influencing well, what did you do to achieve that? How have you engaged them? How do they respond to you? Are there opportunities to use the rapport you’ve built with them to help you build other connections?

Where do you need to focus your energy?

Where you’re not influencing well how can you focus your energy on building your influence? It’s natural to play it safe and focus our time on influencing those we already have good rapport with. Have you asked them what their goals, motivations and challenges are? Do you have any shared objectives? How can you help them? Have you asked for their help and advice?

Demonstrate active listening

By questioning and listening to understand, we can learn more about the perspective of others -this will help us when we try to influence them. When we know what their goals, motivation and challenges are we can plan how to pitch an idea.

Ask for advice and ideas

Sometimes when you’re in a leadership position you can feel that asking others for advice may make them question your ability. If you don’t engage others in sharing their strengths and skills how does that hinder you and others? Think about when people turn to you for advice or ideas how does it make you feel?

Vulnerability is the birthplace of innovation, creativity and change.

BrenE Brown

Build your self awareness

One way of building your self awareness is to reflect on the influencing style you tend to use. There is an influencing model called the ‘Push and pull model.’ The model is helpful for understanding how much we ‘push’ – by telling people what’s happening for us, versus how much we ‘pull’ – asking people what is happening for them.

Both styles are useful in different scenarios.

  • Push – “Here are my thoughts on how we can do X…”
  • Pull – “What do you think is the best approach?”

As a general rule it’s best to ‘pull’ more than ‘push.’ Ask questions to build engagement.

Reflect on the approach that you tend to take. If you think of push at one end of a scale and pull at the other where on the scale do you rate yourself?

Think about how each style may make the people on the receiving end feel. As I said they’re both useful, so think about instances where one style is more suitable than the other. If you tend to use a push approach, how can you take a pull approach?

Notice the impact of your approach on others

Look for signs of whether your approach is being positively received. Watch the body language of those you’re trying to influence. Are they becoming defensive? Does their body language tell a different story to their words? What’s your body language towards them?

Need some help?

There are many elements to influencing, but influencing skills can be developed. If you would like some help in building your influencing skills, including strengthening your self awareness and confidence please get in touch.

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5 Resilience Boosting Techniques To Help You Move Forward

The word resilience has become part of our daily language. In this fast moving world, people are living with volatility, uncertainty, complexity and ambiguity. The uncertainty created by the pandemic threw many lives into chaos. The only way to survive was to become more resilient.

What does resilient mean?

‘Able to withstand or recover quickly from difficult conditions.’

Definition from Oxford Languages

People often talk about resilience as bouncing back, but to me it’s actually about bouncing forward – learning from challenges and adversity, getting stronger and more able to face hard times in the future.

Resilience starts with your mindset. Whilst you don’t have control over everything that happens in your life, you do have control over how you choose to view it.

How do you increase your resilience?

Here are 5 resilience boosting tips to help you move forward:

  1. Become more self aware

    When you’re faced with a challenge recognise how it makes you feel. If you’re feeling stressed and anxious what affect is it having on your body? Is your heart beating faster? Are your palms sweaty? Is your stomach in knots? Where in your body are you feeling the anxiety?

    By taking a moment to notice the impact of the feeling you can start to focus on changing it. Do what works for you. It might be a breathing exercise, listening to music, going for a run, getting out into nature, cooking or journaling. Find an activity that calms you and helps you to regain control.

  2. Reframe the challenge

    Notice the negative thoughts that come into your head. If you think “I can’t do it!” you’re going to feel disheartened, like there’s no point in even trying. If you tell yourself “There’s no point in applying for this job. Hundreds of people who are more successful/experienced are going to apply.” You will start to feel like you’re worthless. So you won’t apply. You won’t get the job.

    Catch those negative thoughts. Think about how you can reframe them positively. “Yes, there may be hundreds of people applying for a job. They only need one person. If you apply you may be the person that they’re looking for. If you don’t apply you won’t get the job anyway, so you have nothing to lose by applying.” You start to feel that maybe you can do it. Your resilience builds. You take action.

  3. Explore opportunities creatively

    Recently I was providing career coaching for a client who was struggling with their job search. She kept scrolling through jobs on LinkedIn, not applying for anything. She was flitting between different job titles, not really knowing which direction she wanted to go in.

    Her mind was going around in circles and it was keeping her up at night. She felt like she’d never find a job. She was exhausted, demotivated and ready to give up.

    How did she gain clarity?
    We took a creative approach, visualising what role she’d like to be doing when she retired. She was surprised by the outcome of the coaching conversation. Her ideal job wasn’t at all what she’d expected it to be. She realised that she’d progressed from one role to another without a clear goal of what she wanted to achieve in life.

    Once she had that clarity she could see how she could get there and which roles would lead her to that point. Suddenly she was motivated. She recognised that there would be obstacles to achieving her goal, but she perceived them differently. They were challenges to overcome and learn from, rather than barriers to stop her.

    Creative approaches can help you to think differently, making connections between seemingly unrelated things. When we’re creative our brain stimulates alpha waves. Alpha brain waves help to obstruct habitual ways of thinking encouraging more ingenious thoughts. Therefore, when we’re creative we’re more resourceful, and problem solve in new, innovative ways.

  4. Build your confidence

    When we’re lacking in resilience we start to focus on our weaknesses, which eats away at our confidence. So think about what you can do. Sometimes it’s useful to talk to others, as we’re often our own worst critic. Other people will be much more able to identify your strengths.

    Reflect on when you’ve overcome challenges. What did you do? How did that make you feel? What can you learn from that?

    A really simple way of building your confidence is by adding the word yet. If you think, “I can’t do it yet” it changes your mindset and opens it up to possibilities.

  5. Celebrate your small successes

    Recognise your achievements on your way towards your goals. Often we focus on a goal and once we’ve achieved it we’re straight onto the next goal, without taking a moment to reward ourselves.

    For example, many of the jobseekers I’ve spoken to have been focused on applying for jobs. Once they’ve been accepted for an interview their focus is on the interview. If they get the job their next concern is the salary negotiation – they forget to celebrate each stage. Take time to congratulate yourself, being shortlisted is a big achievement in itself. Reaching out to your network, signing up to a course, updating your LinkedIn profile – are all accomplishments.

    When you brush your teeth at night reflect on one achievement you made that day. This helps your brain to start searching for other successes and it means you go to bed focusing on the positives.

If you’d like some more support you might find 1-1 coaching helpful. Book a free discovery call to find out more.

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Feeling Overwhelmed? A Quick Way To Gain Control

Are you feeling overwhelmed at work? As a manager you can have the greatest intentions of leading with a clear vision, building an effective, engaged team, and ending each day knowing that you’re achieving your goals.

Then you open your emails in the morning and all your great plans for the day go out the window. Suddenly everything is a priority. Everyone needs your time. You’re being pulled in a hundred directions.

You’re not able to do the things you planned to do. You start to feel overwhelmed, stressed and irritated. Conversations go badly, you react rather than respond. You start to doubt your abilities as a leader and feel like you’re not doing a great job. You end the day with a ‘To Do’ list that’s longer than it was in the morning.

So what do you do?

Many of us start to work longer hours to try to catch up. Working late into the evening, tired and exhausted, hitting deadlines at the last minute. Yes, you can do that for one off situations, or to clear a backlog, but it’s not sustainable. It’s a recipe for burnout.

How to stop feeling overwhelmed

You might think that booking in some coaching is the last thing you need to do. It’s just going to take up more of your precious time! However, coaching gives you time, it speeds up the process of you:

  • Gaining clarity about what needs to be done now, what can be left until later and what doesn’t need to be done at all.
  • Increases your awareness of which tasks play to your strengths and when in the day you should focus on them.
  • Enables you to identify which members of your team have strengths that compliment your weaknesses, allowing you to delegate the tasks which drain your energy, but would enable your team to develop.
  • Builds confidence in your negotiation skills.

If you want to stop feeling overwhelmed at work, like your days are spiralling out of control drop me an email, or book in a free 30 mins discovery call. I’d love to chat to you about it.

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Career Coaching

Career Coach – Are They Worth The Money?

Are you looking for a new role? Or a career change? When you’re contemplating a change in career it can be overwhelming. Whether you’re looking for a new role by choice, or due to redundancy it can be difficult to know which direction to take. A career coach can help you gain the clarity you need more quickly. 

Going around in circles

Prior to using my career coaching services, clients have said that they ‘feel like they’re going around in circles.’ They are endlessly scrolling through job boards and LinkedIn, debating between different roles. Not knowing which roles to apply for, so not applying for anything. They begin to feel like they’ll never find the right job and their confidence starts to drop. 

Going in the wrong direction

Other career coaching clients have said that they’re getting interviews, but they ‘feel like they’re going in the wrong direction’ because something doesn’t feel quite right. So they feel like all the hard work that they’re wasting time filling out application forms and preparing for interviews. 

Successful job search strategy

A successful job search strategy starts with a greater awareness of yourself. As a career coach my role is to work in partnership with you, to help you identify what you need from your next role. Through coaching I enable you to articulate the unique combination of values, strengths, skills and experience that you have to offer. Having this greater self awareness brings clarity to your job search. You can stop going around in circles as you know which roles are right for you.

 

By matching companies and roles against the criteria that you develop, you won’t feel like you’re going in the wrong direction. The culture will fit with your values. The role will play to your strengths. When you reach the interview stage you are confident in what you can offer the company.

“Debbie was extremely professional, demonstrated good communication and matched her style to my needs. She effectively got me to recognise my situation, what I have achieved and learnt, and how to find a way forward. At the end of the session I had an action plan and clarity. I would highly recommend “Coach the Difference” if you are stuck and need someone to take the burden from you to give you a moment to stand back to reflect and review. With her help you, and your willingness, you will find a way forward. Good luck.” – Lucy Milton

Is a career coach worth the money?

You might be feeling unsure about asking for help due to pride. You may be thinking ‘Surely I can figure this all out myself?’ The truth is, that a lot of us need help to see beyond how we see ourselves. I provide a safe space for you to talk openly. As a coach I’ve been trained to work with you to identify your values, strengths, skills and experience. 

I don’t guarantee you a job. I am however, dedicated to your success. You will gain confidence, clarity on your goal and how to get there.  Yes, there is a cost to career coaching, but when we spend so much of our time at work it’s a worthwhile investment.

“Debbie is very skilful in her approach to coaching, she sets the scene, ensures you are relaxed and focusses on asking great, deep questions to get you talking about your aspirations in life and your career. In my case, where I am in a search for a new role, Debbie helped me to explore my career passions and how that should be presented to potential employers. It was a great session, which led me to many changes in my approach and left me full of positivity.” – Gary Marsh

I offer a range of career coaching support. All packages start with a free 30 mins discovery call. You can see if I’m the right coach for you and I can learn more about your goal.